36 and out
I’m 36 and I finally came out as transgender this year. This included coming out to myself first which was very painful. Basically I’ve been in denial all my life, and it’s been on the edge of my awareness, always hastily pushed away and forgotten.
I do feel like I’ve left it far too late but I’m glad I’m coming out now all the same. I take vast amounts of strength and knowledge from the good people of Tumblr. I’m in awe of you all and finally feel part of the trans*tumblr community which has literally saved me. But I’m also a bit older than most so I’m always extra happy to find a trans* tumblr closer to my own age group.
I’m on http://transgenderqueerprincess.tumblr.com :)
WOOHOO! Congrats dude!
HELLO. I am Red Angus, a 24-year-old college grad (and steerbo trans guy) that recently fled the Midwest for the San Francisco Bay. I’m unemployed and frankly pretty broke right now but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Except for not being broke, naturally. Graduation was in May, and I moved out here shortly afterward, having been transitioning medically with testosterone for six months beforehand.
The biggest issues I’ve dealt with are probably the same for every visibly trans person— finding good, friendly housing, and good, friendly jobs. I’ve gotten two jobs and lost them both since I got here, but both for reasons less related to my queerdom as to the state of the economy. I’m digging in my heels to stick around here for a year so that I can get in-state tuition for grad school, because with this distance from all the drama of coming out I can see what I want to do with my life. It ain’t landscape architecture (which is what my bachelor’s is in), it’s teaching art.
I draw a lot. It’s mostly at Redangusart here on tumblr, and my personal blog is mappingindiana. I’m at that weird transitory place between being somebody’s kid and being a real, independent adult, but I still love the hell out of my mom, and I’m working on becoming the kind of man I want to be.
Thank you to those who’ve submitted thus far. To the rest of you 237 followers: Say hi!! It would be very nice if everyone could submit a little something about their lives, most especially something about being queer and having to live as an adult everyday. Words, photos, links, anything!
As the mod I feel it’s best to limit myself as much as I can because this community is about all of you. Since these are the first posts I’ll introduce myself a little: I’m 28yo, pansexual, cismale, and I live on the east coast. My gender and sexuality have always been very fluid. When I was younger it was hard as hell to be anything but straight. As I got into college my gender expression opened up and I could be a girl for the day if I wanted to, or something in between, and not care if anyone knew or understood. Now that college is over I feel trapped. At work I am expected to me a certain kind of human, but at home I am someone rather different. Then when I’m out with my friends I sometimes have to meld to their beliefs and perceptions; gay, straight, and everyone else.
Tumblr is wonderful but it would be nice to find more people like myself who are a little older and forced to pretend we’re adults everyday. Meet, share, and be a community for each other.
Say hi, I know there’s more of you out there, and pass this along :-)
Hey everyone. I’m Cass. 33 year old transman. Just wanted to introduce myself and say that I’m glad that’s there a space for the “older” crowd.
Thank you for submitting!! Tell your friends!!
Just to introduce myself, if that’s alright: I’m going to be 21 in a couple of weeks. I’m a mostly-femme cisgender-female bisexual-identified pansexual art student. I’m in a really weird situation right now; for the past three years I was living in an apartment with roommates from school, but they all graduated a year before me. I’m living with my parents now, just for a year while I finish school. The problem is that my family, my parents especially, are very devout Mormons, and so I’ve sort of got one foot in the closet (as being bisexual) and one foot out.
I’ve wanted to be fully out for years now. I have a beautiful girlfriend of two years who actually lives down the street from me. It’s been stressful to keep what seems like half of my life from my family, and even more stressful just knowing that if they knew about it, they wouldn’t want to be a part of it.
I feel out-of-place in the adult queer community for being half-closeted. I feel out-of-place in the general adult “community” for living with my parents and following their house rules, letting them force me to go to church with them on Sundays… And I’m afraid of being unable to move out once I graduate. But I can’t think that way, I have to just stay positive.
I really appreciate this blog and I’m excited to hear about all of your stories and experiences. (:
How has being queer changed for you from the time you were in high school till now? What about in the workplace? What challenges did you have then that you don’t have now, and what new challenges are you facing?